I created this website as a place where those struggling with medical adversity could come and sit under the palm trees. Imagine how the gentle breeze feels across your skin or the sound of the ocean coming in and going out; as if each wave were taking away the problems and bringing in the cleansing waters of God.  In times of trouble, I love to sit with God on the beach.  I believe it is one of His many gifts to us where nature nurtures our body and soul.

Is there a medical storm brewing within you or someone you love? Have you experienced illness? Have you been a caregiver? Are the medical issues piling up until you feel alone to slay the medical giant? Are you ready to scream – “Stop the world I want to get off?”

The mission of this website is to assist you in overcoming medical adversity through inspirational writings, resources, and a sprinkling of humor.

Whether you have come searching for information and insight for yourself or for a loved one; it is my prayer that you will draw hope, strength and encouragement from the writings posted on this site. If that happens, give the glory and praise to God.

Many blessings for the day, my friends.

About My Book

Are you facing a medical challenge or know someone who is?
Sooner or later it happens to most all of us. We find ourselves staring at a diagnosis we don’t want to hear. What do you do? How do you respond? Often the fear of the unknown is worse than the condition.
With authenticity, candor, humor, spirituality and grace, Surviving Medical Mayhem will help you not just survive but thrive. Discover the healing power of knowledge, humor and faith – three vital health ingredients you need to absorb in heavy doses. These three “miracle medicines” can make all the difference in how you navigate the mayhem of medical adversity and help you walk through this new journey with more, joy, confidence and peace.

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FAITH

Embrace Faith and Prayer as a vital part of your healing.

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Find comfort in others who have faced a similar journey.

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Harness the power of humor and perspective to heal faster.

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20 Ways to Cope With a Chronic Illness

I cannot create a better list than what Bridget Gazlay has done.  Here is some great advice for anyone suffering from chronic illness.  Bridget Gazlay is a freelance writer and artist (and is also chronically ill).

Check Your Pumpkins!

Prayers and blessings for a safe, fun, and worry free Halloween.  

Are You Empty Inside?

A neighbor’s house is decorated for Halloween using posable skeletons: 2 human like figures and a dog.  Every day the wife conjures up positions to put them in and every night the husbands sets up

From Mechanics to TaTas

My grandson, Ryker has a fascination with anything mechanical, specifically the washing machine.  He studies the machine as it seeks to level the clothes out, then marvels as the water begins to fill the wash

Witches, Warlocks and Spiders, Be Damned!

October makes me think of Halloween and I begin the season of decorating my house with funny, cute and scary things like witches welcoming my grandchildren in for a “spell”, warlocks peering out through the

Are you on the “Wrong” Concourse?

I recently did some air travel and was very proud of myself for downloading my boarding pass to my phone in lieu of wasting paper.  While I am a product of the generation that feels

Overeating or Under Training?

Thad and I had some friends over and as good hosts had wonderfully, scrumptious foods with all the calories, sugar, fat and carbs I could think of.  The friends brought their delicious contributions as well. 

Is Aging a Gift?

Aging isn’t pretty.  Watching it happen takes courage, faith and humor.  I’ve been watching the aging process for years. My body has shifted southward starting with my eyelids which have become hurricane shutters for my

We Have Lift Off!

Have you ever had a dream that came and went and then came again?  At times, it felt so out of range that it was merely an unobtainable pipe dream.  There were times when the

Around and Around She Goes

My first blog was July 10, 2014 and it read: “I’m fine as in F.I.N.E. Freaked out, insecure, neurotic and exhausted.  It all started when I attended my first writer’s conference – Write-To-Publish.  It was

CEO of Caring

I would like to share this post from Today’s Caregiver Magazine because frankly when it comes to being a caregiver, I cannot say it any better than Gary Barg did in his recent post. For

Magic Is for Fairy Tales

I had a friend who was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at the age of thirty, and by the time his young son was born, my friend was in a wheelchair. Although he did a lot

Are You Living The Life Intended?

This past week we lost an incredible human being.  He is described as an intellectual genius, who impacted people through his words, his ability to discuss highly volatile and controversial topics with respect and grace. 

The Greatest Father of All

I have some wonderful memories of my dad.  He was creative and talented.  When we would be running errands in the car he and I would sing songs and even make some up.  He could

Processing Life

There has been a lot going on in my life lately.  We completed the renovations on our three bathrooms with just a few hiccups that were solved by a talented and honest contractor.  Maintaining our

When My Pilot Light Goes Out

Here I am supposedly a seasoned survivor of medical adversity, a guide on how to navigate the medical industry and the “Pu-Ba” of all things medical. I made sure that when I moved from South

Until We Meet Again, Mom

  The memories of my mom are like the varying colors of tulips; each distinctive in the color and hue.  It is the variance of memories that come flooding back to me as we celebrate

National Day of Prayer. 

President Trump stated in his proclamation: On this National Day of Prayer, we join together to offer gratitude for our many blessings and to acknowledge our need for divine wisdom, guidance, and protection.  Prayer, by which

When You Hurt Someone

Back in February we returned to our old town for three action packed days filled with appointments with the financial planners, accountants, doctors, and to visits with two family members who, each are in the

Holding On

I recently put a “Pop-Socket” on the back of my cell phone. This is a handy little pop up that attaches to the back of your phone or I-pad to help you hold onto your

Possessed or Blessed?

Ever have one of those weeks when every corner of your life seems to have had a hurricane blow through?  Well, this past week has been that way for me.  I won’t go into the

Thank you, God

Is God’s Arm Too Short?

Disease comes in all shapes and sizes, long or protracted, mental or physical; one impacting the other until they often meld into one disease state. My cousin has watched her son sink deep into the

In the Midst of the Mist.

  As I began my walk the sun was desperately trying to come out but was no match for the fog that had begun to roll in.  When I walked around the lake, the steam

A King Kong Kind of Fear

As I prepare for the mornings event, dread takes over my movements so they are slow and deliberate as if I can slow down time with slow motion.  Fear grips my body like King Kong

“Yes” or “No” 

I have been spending some time thinking about priorities.  Where do I spend my time, my money, my thoughts, and my prayers?  These questions come to me periodically, at times when I find balancing life

The State of My Heart

With President Trump having delivered his first state of the union address, and the first week in February being Women’s Heart Week, I began to ponder – How is the state of my heart? The

Great Balls of Fire!

It’s been a few weeks since I posted. I have been a little busy and somewhat distracted. Ever feel like fire balls are being launched at you?  The more time I spend putting them out,

Friendship No Foe Can Make Folly  

I was cleaning house the other day and as I dusted a picture of me and three other women I was struck but the specialness of our relationships.  Standing tall and smiling, we are linked

My Prayer for 2018

With the joys of the Christmas Season came also the the cold and flu bug into our household.  So while I am not quite up coordinating thoughts, words and my fingers, I wanted to at

The Scavenger Hunt

Tis the season where traditions are created and followed – many of us may not even remember how they began.  Some are faith based; some sweet and some can be downright troublesome.

The Hailstorm in My Mind

The fog begins to lift but I so want to remain within its midst, devoid of all thought, to continue my slumber.  I glance at the large red numbers on the clock: 4:30 am.  I

O Holy Night

A wonderful blog from Linda Mowles that is worth repeating here. O HOLY NIGHT DECEMBER 5, 2017 | LINDAMOWLES Dr. Jeff Sanders begins his article entitled “The Story Behind ‘O Holy Night’” with the following words: It’s

Who am I – David or Goliath?

I have often said that I would rather have a baby than go to the dentist.  But at 63, I may have to rethink that statement as I am exhausted after a full day with

Keepsakes, Scars and Rocks

While most of us collect keepsakes, I seem to collect scars.  A coronary artery bypass scar, breast cancer scar, a hysterectomy scar, two hip replacement scars – you get my drift.  They are like the

Top Dog Priorities

Two key chains reside in an outside pocket of my purse with their charms hanging just outside for easy access.  One holds my car keys and has a silver paw on it – showing my

Tears for the Unanswerable

My cousin has been battling breast cancer since 2001.  In the last four years it has spread to her lungs and spine and she has exhausted all pill forms of chemotherapy and hormonal therapy available.

Coincidence or God-incidence?

  Have you ever wondered if God was working in your life? Have you been looking for Him in your life? Maybe you think these events are merely coincidences.  But for those of us that

What I learned from Harvey, Irma, and Maria

  I’ve been a Florida resident for over 40 years and have had a plethora of experiences with hurricanes.  The names change but the effects are the same: fear, exhaustion and destruction.  Not only physically

America – “The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly”

I am not one to get involved in politics or even engage in political discourse.  But as I watched the recent events in the news I am compelled to share my thoughts of despair and

Waiting for God

Have you ever wondered where God is in your life?  Or what he’s doing in your life?  Is He even aware of the hopelessness you may be feeling? We’ve all been there – whether it’s

The Lights are Flashing But No Ones Responding

 I was fired up and ready to blow! I received a text from a friend of mine asking for prayers for a medical situation.  She was acting as a health advocate for a mutual friend

Finding a Doctor is like Finding Nemo (It’s challenging and scary) 

Having lived in Boca Raton, FL for 40 years, one of our biggest concerns with moving from South to Central Florida was finding good healthcare providers.  Being – ahem – of mature years and having

Between Two Cities

In the last two and half months since moving from South Florida to Oviedo, I have been shocked, amazed, and left speechless (not easily done) at the people in my new home town.

Is Accountability for Everyone?

I was doing due diligence and had scheduled to have a dermatology full body scan as there were a few places that appeared questionable.  Sure enough there was a basal cell carcinoma on my chest. 

Hurried Soul

“What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?”.  Matthew 16:26 I have always prided myself in being efficient, goal oriented, doing whatever it took to accomplish a mission. 

Dislocated Hip, Dislocated Soul

Moving is challenging physically, emotionally and mentally.  But I was confident that we were up to the task.  After all, I had moved many times in my life.  In fact, at an early age my

Blessings Amid the Stressing

The challenges were piling up and I was feeling scared and alone: Our last pet passed to greener pastures and we have agreed not to have another pet for a while. Our home had been

Angels among Us

It’s been a while since I posted because I have been living in a maelstrom of moving from Boca Raton, FL to Oviedo, Fl.  Packing up, moving, and unpacking have been my 24/7 purpose these

The Patchwork Quilt Called Life

I walk the familiar streets of my neighborhood knowing there are precious few days left.  I reminisce about block parties, impromptu neighbor visits under the shade of an oak tree enjoying a beer or a

Ode to an Angel

 “He who learns must suffer and even in our sleep pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart.  In our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful

My Filter has Slipped!

As my life has progressed I have come to have a different perspective.  There is less tolerance in general and a sense of impatience that although I always had, seems to have morphed.    I seem

Living with Dying.

Living with Dying  I’ve had a lot of time to think about dying.  I experienced death at the early age of 5 with the loss of my first dog, then at 11 with my dad’s

Tightening my Lips for Lent

When did a nice catholic girl educated in parochial schools start cursing? I believe it began after raising a child, being a caregiver for multiple family members, nine surgeries, and 62,000 miles on the body

Thanks for the Memories

Today I am not writing about overcoming medical adversity; but about loss.  For I have lost someone very dear to me. Heidi came to us having been a puppy mill dog that had been bred

Mountains Out of Mole Hills

 I am going to discuss a matter that is usually shared with your spouse, mother, father, or close friend.  But I am willing to do this because it is the perfect example of making a

Can a Bloom Be Just Around the Corner?

The orchid plant in and of itself is not a particularly beautiful plant.  Often in its dormant season it will look dead, barren of any texture or softness.  Some say they require much attention to

Is That You God?

How do you discern what God wants for you?  Some people tell me they hear the clear voice of the Lord directing their path.  Me?  I often need a cast iron skillet over the head

 Grace for the Asking

Along my entry walkway I have three terracotta pot people.  Each made using terracotta pots of varying sixes placed together to form a man, a woman, and a child.  Overtime these little pot people get

Harnessed and Tethered

Because of cellulites infections and lymphedema due to breast cancer and sleep apnea; I wear a compression garment on my torso and a C-Pap machine at night.  Picture the Sesame Street character, Snufflelupagus wearing a

Return to Sender

It’s that time of year when Thad and I send out Christmas cards with a one page letter highlighting the year’s events.  Our criteria for selection are those people who impacted our lives in the

When Death Comes at Christmas

God has placed this blog on my heart, nudging me awake at 4:30 am for many mornings until I began to listen and put these thoughts into words.  Throughout this time He has put articles,

Gifts that Come and Go

  Have you ever notice that as we age some of our gifts and talents fade, rust, and just plain disappear?  If you haven’t then you are not as old as I am. I used

Hope for the Hopeless

Recently a longtime acquaintance saw me and was so surprise that I had lost weight that she couldn’t seem to be happy for me.  Her surprise seemed to over shadow her ability to believe that

Thanking God for Everything

The actress, Pauley Perette plays Abbey Scuito, a forensic scientist on NCIS.  Recently she spoke about being through many seasons in her life – some good and some bad. There was a season when she

Faithful Friend or Political Foe?

With so much rancor, frustration, fear, and just plain nastiness this presidential election brought forth, I was determined not to post anything on Facebook or write a blog post that would worsen an already volatile

Are You Ever Cured?

There is a debate as to whether one can ever be cured of an addiction.  Some say once you have changed the behavior for a long period of time you are cured.  Others believe that

Used and Grateful

My husband Thad and I help organize our weekly Communion Ministry at our church.  We needed two people to help serve as those that regularly serve this particular Sunday were out of town.  My husband

Old Is Made New Again

We have just spent six days taking care of our almost 9 month old grandson, Ryker, while his parents and older brother were in NJ celebrating a wedding.  We were excited to have the opportunity

It’s My Cancer-versary…

I am sharing the story of this young woman’s journey and celebrating her cancer-versary with you.  Hope it inspires you as it did me.   There are lots of things in my life that are

The Unforeseen Blessing

She was unplanned.  We didn’t want a second dog.  We finally knew who chewed the woodwork, tinkled on the floor, and generally wreaked havoc while we were working to keep our pet in the lifestyle

What Hurricane Matthew Taught Me     

It’s been eleven years since the last hurricane came breathing down the coast of Florida and I was a little rusty.

The Human Historical Vehicle

I was sitting at a stop light next to a Volkswagen Westphalia and its tag reads: Historical Vehicle. What?  It’s not that old!  Is it?  Made in the early 1950’s until 2003, the Westphalia was

Seeing the Beauty and Not the Beast in Life

I was walking my usual exercise route when one of my neighbors who I had not seen in a while came out of her house.  She stopped abruptly and took a double take and said:

Fluffy

Had to share this with my readers because it exemplifies what God wants for us – to conquer evil with love. Enjoy this story written by Joseph J Mazzella.

If it’s Not One Thing, It’s Another

People say that things come in threes.  It’s usually connected to bad events that happen in our lives: deaths, broken appliances, home repairs, health issues.  I think I am in one of those times.

Wanton Worry

While prayers and time with God allayed my fears I must confess that my need to worry and anticipate was in high gear for the week prior to my right hip replacement surgery.  (see previous

Coat of Armor

I will be scrubbed with disinfectant.  I will be stripped of my clothing.  Devoid of makeup, jewelry, even my wedding rings that show I belong to someone – that I am loved will be removed. 

My Daughter’s Husband

I have known my son in law longer than I have known my daughter.

The Difference

Have you ever doubted that one person can make a difference in someone’s day?  If you have, read on. It had been a tough month: my sister in law died, I had an irregular EKG

Survivor or Victim?

When my medical history is shared, people are always amazed at how much of it there is.  They wonder how I managed to get through it and still have a good disposition.  My husband would

Are We Playing God?

My sister in law was called home this month.  Suffering from vascular dementia for many years; it was a long goodbye.  A talented musician, a gifted nurse, and a loving wife, mother and grandmother her

Mitzi

This is written by a blogger I follow. I think it needs no further introduction.  I hope you find it as true to your life as it is mine.   We’d been lying in the

In This World There Will Be Suffering…

Orlando, Florida, our nation and our allies are still stunned by the attack on innocent victims at the Pulse Club in Orlando, Fl. this past Sunday. Lives were lost, blood was shed, and countless tears, fears,

Promote Your Blog Here

I think this is a wonderful way to connect and create community. Please feel free to post a brief description about your blog. Many blessings for the day.

Avenging my Nemesis

I was visited by my archenemy this week. Breast cellulitis. Again. Despite receiving two bags of Vancomycin in the hospital in November after my left hip replacement. Despite taking a low dose antibiotic every day

Two Sides to Fear

  A friend of mine is battling stage IV metastatic breast cancer that has metastasized to her bones.  The disease was diagnosed almost ten years ago but she didn’t start to fight her disease until

Can I afford to live?

A recent conversation with my cousin got me to thinking about how long I could afford to live.  Recently my cousin returned to her oncologist after an experimental protocol she was on failed to keep

It’s Time to Play Ball

I almost lost my husband to testicular cancer.  Not once, but twice.  The first time was when he was 31 years old and our daughter was 11 months old.  Then second time she was 16. 

Lord, I Believe.  Help my Unbelief.

On a recent visit to NY for a family christening we experienced everything from summer weather to a winter storm.  The first two days were mild with sunny weather and a high of 70.  But

There’s No Exclusive on Aging

There is nothing like visiting family to make you feel old.  From the grand babies that seem heavier than our kids were, to toddlers and young children who have so much energy we tire just

Faith that Overcomes Fear

Our friend was having brain surgery.  Again. The Melanoma kept insidiously attacking our friend and the three of us were going to visit her and help pass the time until she was taken to surgery

A Moment in Time, Forever in Our Hearts.  

  2016 started off with many blessings for our family.  With the expectation of a baby, our daughter and her family sold their starter home and moved into a four bedroom home. Two days after

You Want Me to Do What?

Between bowels in an uproar or on strike, worn out hips, knees, and shoulders, and the aches and pains of undetermined origin, my husband and I need to stick together so that we can function

The Miracle of Life on Earth. 

When you have been plagued with a plethora of medical adversity, you may decide at some point that if you die, you die; you have seen what you have seen, done what you have done

Welcome here whoever thou art If friend,

Welcome here whoever thou art If friend, we meet the hand & heart. If stranger, no longer be. If foe, our love shall conquer thee. -unknown

The Waiting Game

I was on the phone with my nine month pregnant daughter who says to me “I have had enough.  Baby Ryker needs to vacate the premises, his lease is up and I hurt from him

Practice Safe Sex? Why Not S.A.F.E. Medical Care?

Have you heard about a friend, a family member, or a work mate whose medical care was so poorly administered that its consequences were life threatening or lethal?  I think we all have.

The Work of Christmas Begins

This Christmas has been a special one.  Not only were we celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ but we were celebrating the upcoming birth of our second grandchild.  And for the first time since our

Blessed Birth Transcends Time

On March 4, 1920 a father rejoiced in the birth of his son.  It was a birth that was not to have happened for his wife had a weakened heart. And yet, there was his

Dichotomy of the Season

Christmas is that time of year when we celebrate the birth of our savior.  It is a time of wonder, delight and sometimes strife.  It can feel like the devil’s using this time to strike. 

Life is a Balance of Holding on and Letting Go

  The good Lord has been providing me with opportunities to practice patience and balance in my life.  To be truthful, it’s an ongoing journey; having not reached the destination of being comfortable with setting

It is 2015 and I am grateful

If you have ever watched the Cinemax TV series The Knick then you will readily guess what I am thankful for this Thanksgiving season.  Set in New York City in 1900, the Knickerbocker Hospital operates

The Road Of Life

I read this on a blog post entitled Morning Story and Dilbert.  As a bicyclist and a Christian, I could so relate.  I hope you can as well. At first, I saw God as my

Did You Say Spinal Block?

I went for my pre-surgical visit this past week having gotten clearance from my cardiologist, infectious disease physician and internist that I can survive hip replacement without having a heart attack, cellulitis infection or a cold.

A Work in Progress

I have shared in previous blog posts that I am more of a “Martha” than a “Mary”.  I am more comfortable scrubbing toilets, setting up the dining room supply area, and unloading a truck at

I’m F.I.N.E.

I have been afraid of needles since I was a little girl with brown, Shirley Temple curls and training wheels on my bike.  Somethings never change.  While as an adult I understand the need for

The Big Questions

There is a rise and fall that occurs in our lives, a roller coaster ride of ups and downs, push and pulls, give and takes, waves crashing in and seas flowing back into the ocean. 

Claiming Disability

I was receiving medical care recently and the nurse was reviewing my medical history.  There is a lot of history, folks – a plethora of history – a history that makes one tired just reading

The Miracle of Faith

Recently, I have been blessed to be a medical advocate for a friend of mine.  She has been through a series of health hurricanes within the last ten years.  It began with a lesion on

A Parallel Universe

We recently went to Orlando to visit our grandson, Aiden, to celebrate his 7th birthday.  I was struck by the similarities in our lives. Aiden has just crossed the threshold from Kindergarten to First Grade. 

Who is at the Helm of This Ship?

I had been receiving antibiotic infusions for the last ten days and had not seen a doctor since that first late afternoon when I presented to their office with cellulitis of the breast.  I was

Are We Caring For The Patient Or The Health Care System?

I was visited by an old nemesis this week. One I knew well but had not battled with in five years.  Cellulitis of the breast due to a lumpectomy in 2003 came roaring into my

Assuming Bad

I was recently watching DIY networks Yard Crashers.  This is where a DIY personality searches home improvements stores for homeowners who could use a pro’s expertise to transform their backyards from drab to grand!   Who

Not Just for Breakfast…

Its morning and I wander into my favorite room– the living room.  It’s away from the beehive hum of the house and bombardment of world news on the TV.  It has a warm, study like

“But I Don’t Want To!”

It’s a good thing I am retired because I wouldn’t be able to hold a fulltime job with all the doctor’s appointments I have.  I accept and expect that as I age (not well, by

Doctor Shopping

While I enjoy shopping when I need to, it’s not something I want to do every day.  I don’t have the bank account for it nor do I need much to make me happy these

Re-purposing for a Beautiful and Purposeful Life

Recently Thad and I went looking for dining room furniture.  My brother and his wife have enjoyed many years of consignment and antique shopping and suggested that they take us to several of their favorite

Who’s Plan is It?

I plan.  God laughs.  I plan a lot so God spends a lot of time laughing at me.  I probably have my own theatre up in heaven eating popcorn, watching and laughing. You see, I’m

When God says “No”

Working on an Emmaus (Christian Retreat) Team is filled with leadership training, working with diverse populations, planning, executing and ultimately serving throughout the weekend.  It is also filled with the love of God and the

A French Perspective

Thad and I recently spent 10 days in France.  We learned about Chateau’s and wine, beautifully architecturally designed buildings, wine, cathedrals, wine, rich culture, wine, history and delicious foods.  Did I mention wine?  We visited

A Shopping Trip to Memory Lane

Who ever said shopping was fun was only half right.  While it is fun, it can be humiliating, tests your patience and ability to make decisions and is downright exhausting! I was in JJill desperately

The Message in the Pain in My Back

It was 7:30 am and Thad and I were already having “a discussion”.  Not a great way to start the day.  Maybe it was because we were rushing around getting dressed, feeding and walking the

Healing Made Visible

Breakfast at The Pancake House turned out to be a special gift and it wasn’t the pancakes.   A young, smiling waitress escorted us to a table near where three older men were seated.  Obviously retired,

Learning from an Unlikely Source  

Picture this.  A French village in the late 1950’s.  It is governed by a mayor who takes his job and religion very seriously.  The doctrine of “giving up” something for lent is required in mass,

2010 – A Heartfelt Easter

Five years ago on a Good Friday my chest was opened up and 2 blockages in my heart were bypassed with veins from my left leg. I was frightened but mildly relieved that rather than being

Turning Hope into Joy

I have noticed that as we age we lose things.  We lose our eyesight; we lose our hearing.  We lose our hair, and even the elasticity of our skin.  We lose muscle mass and bone

Turning Trouble into Hope

Have you ever been driving or sitting at a stop light and happen to look over at the car next to you only to find a person ranting and raving to absolutely no one else

Turning Worry into Trust

2015 hasn’t started out to be a good year with regards to my health.  I fell victim to the flu and cold right after the New Year’s celebration and spent almost a week trying to

Until We Meet Again

It was 23 years ago this past week that my mother died.  She had battled breast cancer for 10 years and spent much of that time beating it into submission, living a good life, but

A Caregiver’s Worth

If you are in a care-giving role, you may be feeling like you are a worn out floor mop used once too often and lost most of its ability to mop up the dirt and

Road Work

I don’t want people to look at me and say “Boy, she’s had a little work done (plastic surgery)”.  You all know what I mean.  I live in Boca Raton where having plastic surgery is

Standing Up for Faith

Last week I wrote about the persecution of faith.  I asked if God was being pushed out of our lives and if so, what are we doing about it. And it started me to thinking. 

The Persecution of Faith

We are living in a society that is so afraid of being politically incorrect that we are denying our rights rather than allowing our rights to be exercised.  I am talking about the persecution of

I Must Be Dead – My Health Insurance Says So

Since Thad retired two years ago, there has been a tradition.  On December 31st our health insurance coverage gets dropped.  We usually find out by going for a doctor’s appointment or picking up prescriptions from

Human Weakness by Design  

I said I would need prayers and I do.  I knew it would be hard and it is.  Oh, it’s not the end of the world hard, but rather human weakness that has got a

The Ultimate Resolution

Oh, boy, a new year has begun. New beginnings, new promises, new commitments, new resolutions – and I have made and done them all.  These are just a few: eat healthy, exercise daily, let go

The Christmas Crunch & Slump: When Anxiety was great within me.

Although Christmas is my most favorite time of the year there was one Christmas where I found myself in a very dark place. My business was a seasonal one and I was working a second

Cherish Memories Made & Given

Today my calendar was a scheduled dichotomy: a memorial service and a delivery of gifts to a family in need.

Life’s Bitter Fruit

 My husband, Thad grew up in the rural farm lands of Indiana where he and his older brother and sister spent wonderful times visiting their mother’s childhood farm.  On one such occasion, his brother and

The Lord Who Carries Me – Braces and All

When I was nine months old I was diagnosed with elongated tendons in my legs causing me to walk on the inside of my feet.  I was placed in leg braces which I wore 24/7

When the Healing Doesn’t Come

I would like to share a blog from Scribbles and Crumbs.  She is an amazing writer who shares her grief and loss of her baby with bare pain and strong faith.  She discusses the questions

Relating to Relationships

There is an image that will stay in my heart and soul forever to remind me that we are born for relationships. Our new pastor came to our couple’s bible study recently to meet us

An Unhallowed Christmas without Thanksgiving

This morning on my walk I saw Christmas lights adorning the trim on a house and a blow up Santa Claus already poised in a yard.  Really?  It’s not even Thanksgiving yet.  With Halloween being

The PB&J Sandwich

While walking the dogs I ran into a neighbor who had recently brought her mother to live with her.  I asked her how she was doing.  Between homeschooling her ten year old and caring for

Ignore or Explore?

Why was I more freaked out over having a biopsy of a blemish on my scalp than I was over my lumpectomy, or my coronary artery bypass? It had been a few years since I

A Chance Encounter

It was a chance encounter.  I had brought my friend to the outpatient surgical center for a procedure.  While in the waiting room a young man sat in the chair next to me.  He had

Setting Priorities

Patrick Morley has done it again,  He condenses all of life’s infinite decisions and distractions to a simple idea.  This is a good question for all of us to ponder and to set our priorities.

Gleaning a Mary Spirit Amidst a Martha Heart

Luke 10:38-42The Message (MSG) Mary and Martha As they continued their travel, Jesus entered a village. A woman by the name of Martha welcomed him and made him feel quite at home. She had a

When We Serve, We Become Served

So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you

Define Success

Most of you reading this know that I have written a book which I am trying to publish.  It’s been a nine year birthing process and like a mother-to-be in her final trimester; I am

The “Sling Season”

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.  Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NRSV) This past week Thad was given the go-ahead to stop wearing the “Transformer” Shoulder Sling!    After six weeks

Use It or Lose It

I often quip that Thad and I need to remain a team because it takes two of us to make one fully functioning brain.  We will enter a room and can’t remember why we went

“If You Can Laugh at It – You Can Deal With It” – Joan Rivers

Within the last month the world has lost two great comedians – Robbin Williams and Joan Rivers.  This means we are going to have to work twice as hard to keep laughter in our lives

A Humorous Look at Aging

http://youtu.be/LR2qZ0A8vic Published on May 30, 2014 Part Two Senior Conference On Aging. Held at the First Church of the Nazarene of Pasadena. Keynote Speaker Fritz Coleman NBC4’s weathercaster is a Southern California broadcasting icon.

Two Schools of Thought

There are two schools of thought when it comes to responding to friends and family going through a medical morass or the loss of a loved one.  The first is to wait for time to

Monday, Monday 

Oh, Monday morning, you gave me no warning of what was to be. Monday, Monday, can’t trust that day; Monday, Monday, it just turns out that way…  Monday, Monday by The Mammas & The Pappas.

Humor Therapy

It’s been two weeks since Thad’s shoulder surgery and I am beginning wear down.  How am I going to maintain stamina, not to mention, the right attitude?  Unless he has some miraculous healing there will

Staying Powered Up During Power Downs

If you are fortunate enough to have a smart phone, you find that you utilize all sorts of apps simultaneously: photo, banking, calendar, email, investment sites, grocery lists, books, fitness, flashlights, calculator, music, Facebook, texting

I’m Still Here, My Child (Part 2 of Are You Here, Lord?)

It wasn’t what we’d hoped for.  It wasn’t what we’d prayed for.  It wasn’t what we had thought could happen.  But here we are, hearing the doctor’s words: “I have never worked on a shoulder

Are You Here, Lord?

I have just said good-bye to my husband.  They have wheeled him away to have his shoulder rebuilt.  This is elective surgery.  He doesn’t have to have it done.  After all the surgeries and procedures

Two Friends – One Fear

I recently spent the day with two friends in two separate hospitals.  And yes, it was one of those days when you wish you could be in two places at once.

For Better or For Worse, In Sickness & in Health

Forty years ago, my husband and I chose each other for better or for worse.  Some days I think he got the worse.  I was once this vivacious, voluptuous, attractive woman in a Sophia Loren

Psalm 91:4 NIV

The Lord will cover you with His feathers and under His Wings you will find refuge.  His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart

Be Careful of What You Wish For

I’m fine. Really. I’m fine as in F.I.N.E. Freaked out, insecure, neurotic and exhausted.  It all started when I attended my first writer’s conference – Write-To-Publish.  It was eye opening, fun, overwhelming, productive, and informative-

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Loretta Schoen

Loretta Schoen

A book’s a dream that you hold in your hand. Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light.

When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a writer.  I shared this with an author friend of the family.  She said “Loretta, write what you know.”  But at 10 years old – What did I know?

Flash forward a couple dozen years and I found myself with a plethora of experiences relating to medical issues: my own, my family, and my friends.  With those experiences came the stories.  Survival stories, really.

Through these stories I realized God was leading me to do more and the birth of this blog and the book Surviving Medical Mayhem was bornI also love to share my stories in person and conduct Christian based workshops, seminars and talks to provide tools to survive and thrive through medical adversity.

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Would you like to contribute to this place of encouragement?  Maybe your story is just be the “miracle” that someone else needs to read?

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