Slide "Truly my soul finds rest in God:
My salvation comes from him.
Truly He is my rock and my salvation;
He is my fortress,
I will never be shaken."

Psalm 62:1-2 (NIV)
Living in the State of Joy

Some people live in California,
Others in Arizona, New York or Maine.
Still others live in the State of Joy.
Many wonder how to get there.
It's easy, really, requiring no travel.
Simply, the decision to be there.

- Author unknown
Slide The Lord is my

strength and my


- Psalm 28:7

"But those who hope in the Lord

Will renew their strength.

They will soar on wings like eagles,

They will run and not grow weary,

They will walk and not be faint."

Isaiah 40:31
God always gives

His best to those

who leave the

choice with him.

- Jim Elliot
Be joyful in hope

Patient in affliction

Faithful in prayer

Romans 12:12
Even to your old age and gray hairs

I am he, I am he who will sustain you

I have made you and I will carry you

I will sustain you and I will rescue you

Isaiah 46:4
Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.

Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.

Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.

Painful moments, TRUST GOD.

Every moment, THANK GOD.

-Rick Warren
Life is like two rails on a railroad track,

and at all times you have something

good and something bad in your life.

-Rick Warren
With your help I can advance against a troop;

with my God I can scale a wall."

2 Samuel 22:30
The Lord will cover you with his feathers,

And under His wings you will find refuge.

His faithfullness will be

your shield and rampart.

Psalm 91:4
I am not afraid of storms,

for I am learning how to sail my ship.

- Louisa May Alcott
Be not afraid,

neither be dismayed,

for the Lord your God is

with you wherever you go.

Joshua 1:6
The Lord God is

my strength,

my personal bravery

and my invincible army.

Habakkuk 3:19
When I am afraid,

I put my trust in you.

In God, whose word I praise -

In God I trust and am not afraid.

What can mere mortals do to me?"

Psalm 56:3 NIV
The Lord will cover you

with his feathers,

And under His wings

you will find refuge.

His faithfullness will be

your shield and rampart.

Psalm 91:4
I present my body to God for it is

the temple of the LIVING GOD.

God dwells in me and HIS LIFE

permeates my SPIRIT, SOUL, and BODY

so that I am filled with the

fullness of God daily.

Romans 12:1-2; John 14:30
I let the peace of God

Rule in my heart

And I refuse to worry about anything."

Colossians 3:15
I will not let the Word of God

Depart from before my eyes

for it is life to me; I have found it

and it is health and healing

to all my flesh.

Proverbs 4:21-22
I will fear no evil for

thou art with me Lord,

your Word and your Spirit

they comfort me

Psalm 23:4
I trust in the Lord with all my heart,

And I lean not unto my

own understanding.

In all my way I acknowledge Him

And He directs my path.

Proverbs 3:5-6
EAT what nourishes

your body.

DO what nourishes

your soul.

THINK what nourishes

your mind.
Gracious God,

Help me to remember

that in all circumstances

and challenges I am being

formed by your hands.

Yet, O Lord,

you are our Father.

We are the clay,

You are the potter;

we are all the work

of your hand.

Isaiah 64:8


I created this website as a place where those struggling with medical adversity could come and sit under the palm trees. Imagine how the gentle breeze feels across your skin or the sound of the ocean coming in and going out; as if each wave were taking away the problems and bringing in the cleansing waters of God.  In times of trouble, I love to sit with God on the beach.  I believe it is one of His many gifts to us where nature nurtures our body and soul.

Is there a medical storm brewing within you or someone you love? Have you experienced illness? Have you been a caregiver? Are the medical issues piling up until you feel alone to slay the medical giant? Are you ready to scream – “Stop the world I want to get off?”

The mission of this website is to assist you in overcoming medical adversity through inspirational writings, resources, and a sprinkling of humor.

Whether you have come searching for information and insight for yourself or for a loved one; it is my prayer that you will draw hope, strength and encouragement from the writings posted on this site. If that happens, give the glory and praise to God.

Many blessings for the day, my friends.

About My Book

Are you facing a medical challenge or know someone who is?
Sooner or later it happens to most all of us. We find ourselves staring at a diagnosis we don’t want to hear. What do you do? How do you respond? Often the fear of the unknown is worse than the condition.
With authenticity, candor, humor, spirituality and grace, Surviving Medical Mayhem will help you not just survive but thrive. Discover the healing power of knowledge, humor and faith – three vital health ingredients you need to absorb in heavy doses. These three “miracle medicines” can make all the difference in how you navigate the mayhem of medical adversity and help you walk through this new journey with more, joy, confidence and peace.



Embrace Faith and Prayer as a vital part of your healing.


Find comfort in others who have faced a similar journey.


Harness the power of humor and perspective to heal faster.

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The Dichotomy of a Life – A Tribute to My Mother

My mother was born into a privileged life, having a chauffeur, cooks, maids and nannies, with summers in Italy, beautiful homes in Long Island, NY and Florida, apartments in San Remo and Manhattan.  Yet her

Turning Sour into Sweet

With all this talk about turning lemons into something more than pain, I have been looking at my recipes and found this one to be so delicious that I could eat the whole loaf myself! 

What’s the Take-Away from a Season of Lemons?

My friend has just come out of a season of lemons.  You know, when medical mayhem takes over your life, leaving you breathless, hurting, and exhausted. She is my “Buddy” and we have known each

Time Out While You Find Out

Do you find that facing the simplest medical procedures can often be the ones you find yourself worrying about the most? Over the last several years I have had an ingrown toe nail excised, a

More Lemons – Part II

So what do I do with the current lemon in my life, specifically whether or not to take an injectable drug for my osteoporosis (Prolia) or a yearly infusion (zolendronate)?  After weighing in on the

Easter Wishes

“Want to know the coolest thing about the One who gave up the crown of heaven for a crown of thorns? He did it for you. Just for you!” –Max Lucado May you and your

What Do You Do With the Lemons in Your Life? 

You know it’s not good news when the nurse tells you the results of your test are in but you will need to see the doctor.  I asked that the nurse tell me the results

The Cost of Health Care is Making Me Sick

I’ve been putting together the information I need to prepare our taxes for 2020.  No, I don’t do my own taxes because if I did I would probably be spending time in prison for tax

When to Call In the Calvary

Are you a caregiver?  How long have you been the primary caregiver for your loved one?  How are you doing?  Are you able to meet the needs of you and your loved one?  If you

A Matter of Perspective

Today is my 66st birthday and I wasn’t going to write about it because, well frankly, the less said better.  But then a friend sent me a little article that inspired me. The Friendly Societies

One More Conversation, Please

It had been a cool spring, a strong breeze was gently caressing our skin where the Florida sun had warmed us. Mom and I had settled on the back porch, her with her scotch and

Mercies in Disguise

The year 2003 felt more like a hurricane that would never end rather than a storm that would eventually lose steam and drift off. It started with a routine mammogram in March that suddenly was

When a Parental Push Becomes a Parental Piranha

I recently gave a talk to a group of mature and worldly ladies and was posed this question. “How do I get my 40 year old son to seek medical attention for chronic back pain?” 

Faith Over Fear

I am dismayed at the large number of children not being allowed to attend public schools.  Half the school year is over!  Parents are upset and frightened at how the ramifications of time away from

It’s the Little Things that Make the Memories Big

“The most beautiful things are not associated with money; they are memories and moments.  If you don’t celebrate those, they can pass you by.”  Alek Wrek. Do your senses open up the memory box of

What Do You See?

When I share the events that have led me to the ripe age of 65, many are wide eyed with amazement that I am not more crotchety, bitter, or as spirit-filled and energy-able as I

Opening the Door to Living

Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and…realizing you were the prisoner!  – Max Lucado  Our past has a way of influencing our future especially when it houses the hurts that foster habits

Showing Me the Way

I find myself surrounded by women who show great faith and perseverance during catastrophic illness and/or end of life issues and I wonder how they do it. Could I have that kind of strength of

My New Year’s Wish for 2021

2020 – Sigh. 2021 – Uhhhhh? Which way to go, what path to take?  How will we know if we will be safe? There are no promises as we venture out of this year and

Rejoice! For Jesus is Born!

Rejoice!  For Jesus is Born!  “To those gathered with us and to those gathered without us, to those less fortunate and those with the wisdom to help; here’s to the light in each and every

The Best Tenderloin Ever!

The Best Tenderloin Ever! The year 2020 has been complicated but Christmas dinner doesn’t have to be. If you are still in a quandary about what to make why not try the Best Tenderloin Ever. 

Holiday Sanity Savers

This been a year like no other.  How are you holding up?  Are you feeling the holidays might be what puts you over the edge?  Or maybe you feel like you need to escape the

A Christmas Thought

This Christmas we find ourselves in a changing world.  Maybe you’re like me wanting to hold onto things the way they were rather than moving on with our life as it is today.  Maybe this

With a Thankful Heart

As we gather at this time of sweet and savory aromas, family gatherings, and time of thanks it is difficult not to think of the challenges many have faced this year.  I ask the Lord

The Great Bread Dough Fiasco

My husband must have been a baker in his last life.  In this life he is a man of science.  Thad brings the same methodical precision to his passion for baking bread as he did

God, Grant Me Patience to Heal

On September 11of this year, I catapulted over a piece of wood that I used to keep our little Liesl from using the two guest room carpets as a pee-pee pad.  I  subluxated my left

The Present of Prayer

It seems that medical mayhem is working overtime and my prayer book is filled with voices from friends and family asking for prayers.  I like getting up early when Liesl (our new long haired mini

Are You Holding those in the Know Accountable? 

I don’t like secrets.  I don’t like it when people keep details or information from me.  Call me a curious cat that needs satisfaction but I want to know things.  Things that will help me

Wind the Cuckoo Clock of Life

Last night I got wonderful news about a friend of mine.  The pathology from her recent surgery showed no spread of cancer and there is hope that the procedure is the cure.  Weeks of worry

Sweets for the Sweet

Here is a recipe that is healthy and tasty too.  It comes from a blogger who I follow.  Beauty Beyond Bones shares her experience as a survivor of anorexia and uses her brokenness and redemption

Down Memory Lane

Do you ever have a desire to revisit or recreate a memory?  During the COVID-19 Pandemic I have had time to take a trip down memory lane.  And one such wonderings of my mind may

Bacon-Apple Brussels Sprouts

This is a great recipe anytime of the year but the colors remind me of the fall. This recipe is healthy, tasty, and simple to make – even the grand kids like it. INGREDIENTS 3

Take the Next Right Step

“O.K., Mom, now pull your belly button towards your spine, tighten your gluts, keep your shoulders down – out of your ears, and stick your chest out as you step forward.” My daughter says this

It Only Happens to the Living

As I age I have become more fearful of all the things the world tells you to be worried about.  And I am not talking about sagging breasts, crepe skin and droopy eyelids.  What I

Don’t Change! Become! by John Roedel

Today I am taking leave of writing my own blog to share something I ran across Facebook by author John Rodel.  It’s a conversation with God that many who have experienced medical mayhem have had

Never Forget

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How do you handle medical mayhem?  Do you rant and rave, turn angry or bitter or perhaps turn inwards clamping down on your feelings, shutting out the world?   I have two friends, both single, going

Liesl Changes Life

Ever feel like you’re the typical dog that is intently sniffing the ground when suddenly you spot a squirrel and you’re off to try and catch it!  “Squirrel alert!” The squirrel or distraction in my

Change is the Only Constant in Life

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Should a Juggler Juggle Alone?

I am a multitasker.  In my younger days I thrived on seeing how much I could do all at the same time.  I was a wife, mother, and business owner, caregiver for my mom, Girl

It’s the Details that Count

A friend of mine didn’t know he had low blood pressure until he was well into middle age, and then he learned it only by accident. His doctor of many years was out of town

Carlos – The Priceless Pearl

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Walking The Tightrope

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The Cross in Your Life

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When the Summer is Hot, the Living Should Be Easy

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Be a Light Amidst the Dark

I have survived cancer, heart disease and deep depression but at 65 years of age I have never before seen what is happening to America.  I find myself discouraged with feelings of hopelessness for this

It Takes Two to Have a Baby

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So What Have We Been Missing?

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Is It Time For A Baby?

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“Checking Out” the Future

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Growing Up is Tough – Help Make It Easier

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What’s My Take-Away from COVID-19?

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Two Monsters to Slay

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We’ve Still Got It!

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Curse or Gift?

Is anyone else having a problem with the need and dependence on all the technology to navigate through this pandemic? I am not totally devoid of knowledge in this area.  In the course of my

Bringing the Past Forward

I have recently traveled back in time and I do it every time I pass by the kitchen bar counter. Thad recently got me a Digital Picture Frame for my birthday as our old small

The Strength in Our Scars

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Starve the Fear and Feed a Family

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I Was Blind But Now I See

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A Cave Man’s Story

In times of stress, I always try to find the funny.  Its a prescription I use repeatedly in surviving medical adversity.  I thought we could all use a little levity at a time like this.

Fear Not

Whenever I see the entire United States map covered in COVID-19 red anxiety and dismay strikes within me.. Yet, I know fear is the devils work and what I really need is Trust. Trust that

How Do You Survive COVID-19?

Has the news been filling you with fear – even more than usual?  You can’t turn on the TV, radio, or go into a grocery store without being reminded that the world is dealing with

I’ve Come of Age

I have had a love/hate relationship with Medicare since 1978 when I took a job working for a Home Oxygen Company in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.  I did the billing for patients who needed oxygen due

A Prescription for Healthy Living

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Are You Cured or Healed?

 In 2003 I was diagnosed with breast cancer, had a lumpectomy, radiation, and told I was cured.  But was I healed?  What is the difference between being cured and being healed?  Healing and curing are

Valentine, Valentine, Who is Your Valentine?

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Take a Break with Something Great

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Created to Be Together

As I sat listening to Sunday’s sermon on the importance of small groups; I realized that part of the message can be applied to surviving medical mayhem.  Whether you are the caregiver or the care

A Queen Size Bed Brings a Queen Size Gift

Have you noticed how sometimes change can inadvertently bring you unexpected gifts?  Consider it a bonus for all the hassle that change can bring. It all started with a queen size bed for our guest

Helping Friends Through Medical Mayhem

I recently learned that a friend of mine was going through medical mayhem.  I was concerned and upset.  She had been there for me when my world was turned upside down and I wanted to

Who Do You Emulate?

“Mom, you sound just like Presley”. My daughter was commenting on my groans which indeed sounded more like the growls and whining of my grand dog than moans and groans of an adult human being.

Fresh HOPES, Fresh PLANS, Fresh EFFORTS, Fresh FEELINGS, Fresh COMMITMENT. Welcome 2020 with a fresh ATTITUDE. Wishing you pure joy, laughter and peace of mind in this New Year. Happy New Year! Loretta Start the

From Our Home to Yours

  May the blessings of Christ be with you in all the ups and downs of your life.  May your life be happy and joyful today, tomorrow and always.  Blessings for Health & Wellness.  Loretta  

Battling Biscotti

I admit it.  I am absolutely defenseless when it comes to abstaining from biscotti.  Specifically Thad’s biscotti.  He got the recipe from a dear friend who spent an afternoon teaching and sharing the recipe with

How Big is Too Big? How Much is Too Much?

I used to celebrate Christmas in a big way with miles of garlands and icicle lights outlining our home that illuminated night into day and a tree in every room.  Those days are long gone

Have You Lost Your Peace?

 Medical mayhem is something I know personally.  It has “moved my cheese”, made me “lose it”, and even at times wished God would just end it (it being me). Are you there? Maybe your grown

This Thanksgiving, I’ll have a Serving of Humanity, Please

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Who is This Person?

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If October is about Breasts, November must be about Balls

Whether you have breasts or balls’, checking them for lumps is a must. I have just spent a month blogging about breast cancer awareness, but today I would like to bring awareness to testicular cancer. 

What Did You Do With That Extra Hour?

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Happy Halloween

Slaying the Dragon

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Is The Cure Worse Than The Disease?

I had a friend who was diagnosed with breast cancer but because she was afraid of the healthcare industry, doctors, surgery, and possible treatments chose to go untreated.  Nine years later, when she could barely

Detect to Protect – Taking Inventory

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Keeping Abreast

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Remembering What’s On The Line

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Here I am

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Don’t Dive, Ride!

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Are You Prepared?

Today as I sat in church I rested on the knowledge that Thad and I had done everything we could to prepare for Hurricane Dorian when and where it should hit.  Living in Florida this

At Tribute To Love

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Beat the Summer Heat with This Recipe

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I’ll Have What She Has

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Phew! It isn’t Personal

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Anticipatory Grief: Friend or Foe?

My friend and writer’s accountability partner has just published her debut book, Anticipatory Grief – The Journey of a Thousand Losses and Endless Grace by Tracy Pratt.   I had never heard the term before but

Too Hot to Cook Recipe

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Teeter Totter Tests Marriage

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Can You Go Back?

I recently went back to my old home town of Boca Raton for a Christening.  It was a busy weekend with seeing family especially those we hadn’t seen in a long time.  But we did

Fireworks of a Different Kind

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Cogitating at 3 am

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My First VBS (Vacation Bible Study)

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Father’s Day Past & Present

I have some wonderful memories of my dad: making up songs or singing U.S. army songs with my dad as he and I ran errands around town – “Over hill, over dale, we have hit

Is History Repeating Itself?

Seventy Five years ago today the world joined forces to defeat a ruthless invader whose sole purpose was to annihilate those that were deemed less than perfect.  Today as I watched the Remembrance of D-Day

Judge Not Till You’re Living in Their World

Do you ever find yourself getting impatient with someone who is elderly and walking slowly ahead of you?  Or maybe they are as slow as molasses in a checkout line at 5:30 pm when you

Can I Order a To-Go Cup of Sleep, Please?

You would think I had a newborn in the house with how little I sleep.  I haven’t slept through the night in about ten years.  And it’s only getting worse.  I have no problem falling

The Love Bug Seasons of Life.   Having just celebrated our second year in Central Florida I have finally found something I do not like about living here.  The Love Bugs. Last September we went to

Those That Make a Difference

Is there a woman that has made a difference in your life?  Someone who influenced, motivated and whose characteristics you try to emulate? There have been a few in my life.  My Aunt Dot was

Alzheimer’s Awareness: Does Your Loved One Need Live-In Help?

Chloe Pearson believes consumers need reliable, well-researched information to make the best decisions about their health.  She works as a freelance writer and research specialist at Consumer Health Labs.  Consumer Health Labs explores and researches

Mother’s Day Special

This Mother’s Day give the women in your life something that not only feeds their bellies but most importantly is good for the body, mind and soul. Everyone knows someone who is battling a health

Remind Me to Laugh

What do you do when you are scared or in pain?  Besides panicking about the worst case scenario, I mean. Thad and I have had a few of those moments in the last couple of

Keeping Easter in our Hearts

Because He gave up His life for us, every Lent we give up chocolate, bread, liquor, or some particularly addictive habit.  For me, it’s taming my tongue.  We count the days till we can imbibe,

Happy Easter!

Lessons Still to Learn

Although Thad and I have become experts at surviving medical adversity, heck I even wrote a book about it, we need a little fine tuning.  Maybe it’s our age; after all even the simplest things

When It Takes Two to Canoe – Part III For the past couple of weeks we’ve been exploring the rivers of caregivers verses care receivers and have noticed that each crew member shares many of

Celebrating Good Doctors

Ever met a doctor you loved?  Yup.  Ever met one you disliked as much as having to drink the bowel prep for a colonoscopy?   Oh, yeah. For the most part, doctors have chosen the profession

It’s Going to Take Two to Canoe – Part II – Being a Good Care Receiver

Last week I blogged about how to be a good care giver Today I would like to talk about being a good care receiver.  If you are a person in need of care giving

When It Takes Two to Canoe – Part 1

When It Takes Two to Canoe – Part 1 Being a Good Care giver Do you find yourself feeling anxious, to the point of panic?  Are you frustrated, tired, have feelings of isolation, hopelessness or

Kickin’ It Even as I’m Getting Old 

I turned 64 this today.  I have enjoyed the many well wishes that make me feel loved.  I did get a special one from my brother who simply said “Happy Birthday, Old Girl”. My first

A Toast to Kahlua

I wasn’t going to write about food again.  I had previously boasted about how I was going to give the gift of health to my hubby for Valentine’s Day by eating heart healthy and then

Forgive Me Father For I Have Sinned

Its confession time.  In my last blog I talked about wanting to give my husband a healthy heart for this Valentine’s Day.  I wanted to insure many more days ahead.  I would choose foods that

Will You Be My Forever Valentine?

Thad and I have celebrated 45 Valentine Days and that included a lot of chocolate for me and peanut butter/nuts/chocolate for him.   But since he now sports two stents in his heart and I have

Who Is Your Super Tech?

Have you ever had a problem with your computer where you had to call on tech support to solve the problem?  Often times they will ask if they can “remote” in and take control of

Fearfully Anticipating God’s Plan? Part II

A few days ago I wrote about anticipating what God had planned for me at the Mountainside Marketing Conference for Writers. See My trip started with a series of expectations and much anticipation and

Are You Fearfully Anticipating God’s Plan? – Part 1

I pride myself on being organized, taking initiative and thinking ahead at all the possibilities.  I fully endorsed the Girl Scouts Motto to “be prepared”. So when this opportunity came up to attend the Mountainside

Small Perks Keeps Me Perking

I may have a small addiction brewing.  While I have never thought of myself as a serious coffee drinker; I do like my morning coffee and have taken to having a coffee in the afternoon. 

Why Plotting the Demise of My Personal Trainer Might Not Be a Good New Year’s Resolution

Have you ever had evil thoughts enter your brain?  Sure you have.  Who hasn’t?  Well maybe Mother Theresa never did.  Nevertheless, every once in a while these evil thoughts about what I could do slither

Love Came Down At Christmas

Food Filled Memories

Christmas is  a time to cherish family and friends, whether past or present.  We celebrate Christmas by re-enacting the story of the birth of Jesus, decorating our homes in celebration and exchanging gifts.  It is

Can You See the Blessings?

I didn’t need another item on my “To Do” List which has lists for my list!  To add to that was the flu Thad and I caught while helping to care for our two and

The Cycle of Life

Right now, I am trying to find a rose colored glasses, flower powered medical and aging perspective. Help me. You see, I am now sporting dental braces for the third time in my life.  Why,

Thanksgiving Past & Present

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.  – Melody Beattie I recently read this quote and it got me to thinking about how I am grateful

20 Ways to Cope With a Chronic Illness

I cannot create a better list than what Bridget Gazlay has done.  Here is some great advice for anyone suffering from chronic illness.  Bridget Gazlay is a freelance writer and artist (and is also chronically ill).

Check Your Pumpkins!

Prayers and blessings for a safe, fun, and worry free Halloween.  

Are You Empty Inside?

A neighbor’s house is decorated for Halloween using posable skeletons: 2 human like figures and a dog.  Every day the wife conjures up positions to put them in and every night the husbands sets up

From Mechanics to TaTas

My grandson, Ryker has a fascination with anything mechanical, specifically the washing machine.  He studies the machine as it seeks to level the clothes out, then marvels as the water begins to fill the wash

Witches, Warlocks and Spiders, Be Damned!

October makes me think of Halloween and I begin the season of decorating my house with funny, cute and scary things like witches welcoming my grandchildren in for a “spell”, warlocks peering out through the

Are you on the “Wrong” Concourse?

I recently did some air travel and was very proud of myself for downloading my boarding pass to my phone in lieu of wasting paper.  While I am a product of the generation that feels

Overeating or Under Training?

Thad and I had some friends over and as good hosts had wonderfully, scrumptious foods with all the calories, sugar, fat and carbs I could think of.  The friends brought their delicious contributions as well. 

Is Aging a Gift?

Aging isn’t pretty.  Watching it happen takes courage, faith and humor.  I’ve been watching the aging process for years. My body has shifted southward starting with my eyelids which have become hurricane shutters for my

We Have Lift Off!

Have you ever had a dream that came and went and then came again?  At times, it felt so out of range that it was merely an unobtainable pipe dream.  There were times when the

Around and Around She Goes

My first blog was July 10, 2014 and it read: “I’m fine as in F.I.N.E. Freaked out, insecure, neurotic and exhausted.  It all started when I attended my first writer’s conference – Write-To-Publish.  It was

CEO of Caring

I would like to share this post from Today’s Caregiver Magazine because frankly when it comes to being a caregiver, I cannot say it any better than Gary Barg did in his recent post. For

Magic Is for Fairy Tales

I had a friend who was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at the age of thirty, and by the time his young son was born, my friend was in a wheelchair. Although he did a lot

Are You Living The Life Intended?

This past week we lost an incredible human being.  He is described as an intellectual genius, who impacted people through his words, his ability to discuss highly volatile and controversial topics with respect and grace. 

The Greatest Father of All

I have some wonderful memories of my dad.  He was creative and talented.  When we would be running errands in the car he and I would sing songs and even make some up.  He could

Processing Life

There has been a lot going on in my life lately.  We completed the renovations on our three bathrooms with just a few hiccups that were solved by a talented and honest contractor.  Maintaining our

When My Pilot Light Goes Out

Here I am supposedly a seasoned survivor of medical adversity, a guide on how to navigate the medical industry and the “Pu-Ba” of all things medical. I made sure that when I moved from South

Until We Meet Again, Mom

  The memories of my mom are like the varying colors of tulips; each distinctive in the color and hue.  It is the variance of memories that come flooding back to me as we celebrate

National Day of Prayer. 

President Trump stated in his proclamation: On this National Day of Prayer, we join together to offer gratitude for our many blessings and to acknowledge our need for divine wisdom, guidance, and protection.  Prayer, by which

When You Hurt Someone

Back in February we returned to our old town for three action packed days filled with appointments with the financial planners, accountants, doctors, and to visits with two family members who, each are in the

Holding On

I recently put a “Pop-Socket” on the back of my cell phone. This is a handy little pop up that attaches to the back of your phone or I-pad to help you hold onto your

Possessed or Blessed?

Ever have one of those weeks when every corner of your life seems to have had a hurricane blow through?  Well, this past week has been that way for me.  I won’t go into the

Thank you, God

Is God’s Arm Too Short?

Disease comes in all shapes and sizes, long or protracted, mental or physical; one impacting the other until they often meld into one disease state. My cousin has watched her son sink deep into the

In the Midst of the Mist.

  As I began my walk the sun was desperately trying to come out but was no match for the fog that had begun to roll in.  When I walked around the lake, the steam

A King Kong Kind of Fear

As I prepare for the mornings event, dread takes over my movements so they are slow and deliberate as if I can slow down time with slow motion.  Fear grips my body like King Kong

“Yes” or “No” 

I have been spending some time thinking about priorities.  Where do I spend my time, my money, my thoughts, and my prayers?  These questions come to me periodically, at times when I find balancing life

The State of My Heart

With President Trump having delivered his first state of the union address, and the first week in February being Women’s Heart Week, I began to ponder – How is the state of my heart? The

Great Balls of Fire!

It’s been a few weeks since I posted. I have been a little busy and somewhat distracted. Ever feel like fire balls are being launched at you?  The more time I spend putting them out,

Friendship No Foe Can Make Folly  

I was cleaning house the other day and as I dusted a picture of me and three other women I was struck but the specialness of our relationships.  Standing tall and smiling, we are linked

My Prayer for 2018

With the joys of the Christmas Season came also the the cold and flu bug into our household.  So while I am not quite up coordinating thoughts, words and my fingers, I wanted to at

The Scavenger Hunt

Tis the season where traditions are created and followed – many of us may not even remember how they began.  Some are faith based; some sweet and some can be downright troublesome.

The Hailstorm in My Mind

The fog begins to lift but I so want to remain within its midst, devoid of all thought, to continue my slumber.  I glance at the large red numbers on the clock: 4:30 am.  I

O Holy Night

A wonderful blog from Linda Mowles that is worth repeating here. O HOLY NIGHT DECEMBER 5, 2017 | LINDAMOWLES Dr. Jeff Sanders begins his article entitled “The Story Behind ‘O Holy Night’” with the following words: It’s

Who am I – David or Goliath?

I have often said that I would rather have a baby than go to the dentist.  But at 63, I may have to rethink that statement as I am exhausted after a full day with

Keepsakes, Scars and Rocks

While most of us collect keepsakes, I seem to collect scars.  A coronary artery bypass scar, breast cancer scar, a hysterectomy scar, two hip replacement scars – you get my drift.  They are like the

Top Dog Priorities

Two key chains reside in an outside pocket of my purse with their charms hanging just outside for easy access.  One holds my car keys and has a silver paw on it – showing my

Tears for the Unanswerable

My cousin has been battling breast cancer since 2001.  In the last four years it has spread to her lungs and spine and she has exhausted all pill forms of chemotherapy and hormonal therapy available.

Coincidence or God-incidence?

  Have you ever wondered if God was working in your life? Have you been looking for Him in your life? Maybe you think these events are merely coincidences.  But for those of us that

What I learned from Harvey, Irma, and Maria

  I’ve been a Florida resident for over 40 years and have had a plethora of experiences with hurricanes.  The names change but the effects are the same: fear, exhaustion and destruction.  Not only physically

America – “The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly”

I am not one to get involved in politics or even engage in political discourse.  But as I watched the recent events in the news I am compelled to share my thoughts of despair and

Waiting for God

Have you ever wondered where God is in your life?  Or what he’s doing in your life?  Is He even aware of the hopelessness you may be feeling? We’ve all been there – whether it’s

The Lights are Flashing But No Ones Responding

 I was fired up and ready to blow! I received a text from a friend of mine asking for prayers for a medical situation.  She was acting as a health advocate for a mutual friend

Finding a Doctor is like Finding Nemo (It’s challenging and scary) 

Having lived in Boca Raton, FL for 40 years, one of our biggest concerns with moving from South to Central Florida was finding good healthcare providers.  Being – ahem – of mature years and having

Between Two Cities

In the last two and half months since moving from South Florida to Oviedo, I have been shocked, amazed, and left speechless (not easily done) at the people in my new home town.

Is Accountability for Everyone?

I was doing due diligence and had scheduled to have a dermatology full body scan as there were a few places that appeared questionable.  Sure enough there was a basal cell carcinoma on my chest. 

Hurried Soul

“What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?”.  Matthew 16:26 I have always prided myself in being efficient, goal oriented, doing whatever it took to accomplish a mission. 

Dislocated Hip, Dislocated Soul

Moving is challenging physically, emotionally and mentally.  But I was confident that we were up to the task.  After all, I had moved many times in my life.  In fact, at an early age my

Blessings Amid the Stressing

The challenges were piling up and I was feeling scared and alone: Our last pet passed to greener pastures and we have agreed not to have another pet for a while. Our home had been

Angels among Us

It’s been a while since I posted because I have been living in a maelstrom of moving from Boca Raton, FL to Oviedo, Fl.  Packing up, moving, and unpacking have been my 24/7 purpose these

The Patchwork Quilt Called Life

I walk the familiar streets of my neighborhood knowing there are precious few days left.  I reminisce about block parties, impromptu neighbor visits under the shade of an oak tree enjoying a beer or a

Ode to an Angel

 “He who learns must suffer and even in our sleep pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart.  In our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful

My Filter has Slipped!

As my life has progressed I have come to have a different perspective.  There is less tolerance in general and a sense of impatience that although I always had, seems to have morphed.    I seem

Living with Dying.

Living with Dying  I’ve had a lot of time to think about dying.  I experienced death at the early age of 5 with the loss of my first dog, then at 11 with my dad’s

Tightening my Lips for Lent

When did a nice catholic girl educated in parochial schools start cursing? I believe it began after raising a child, being a caregiver for multiple family members, nine surgeries, and 62,000 miles on the body

Thanks for the Memories

Today I am not writing about overcoming medical adversity; but about loss.  For I have lost someone very dear to me. Heidi came to us having been a puppy mill dog that had been bred

Mountains Out of Mole Hills

 I am going to discuss a matter that is usually shared with your spouse, mother, father, or close friend.  But I am willing to do this because it is the perfect example of making a

Can a Bloom Be Just Around the Corner?

The orchid plant in and of itself is not a particularly beautiful plant.  Often in its dormant season it will look dead, barren of any texture or softness.  Some say they require much attention to

Is That You God?

How do you discern what God wants for you?  Some people tell me they hear the clear voice of the Lord directing their path.  Me?  I often need a cast iron skillet over the head

 Grace for the Asking

Along my entry walkway I have three terracotta pot people.  Each made using terracotta pots of varying sixes placed together to form a man, a woman, and a child.  Overtime these little pot people get

Harnessed and Tethered

Because of cellulites infections and lymphedema due to breast cancer and sleep apnea; I wear a compression garment on my torso and a C-Pap machine at night.  Picture the Sesame Street character, Snufflelupagus wearing a

Return to Sender

It’s that time of year when Thad and I send out Christmas cards with a one page letter highlighting the year’s events.  Our criteria for selection are those people who impacted our lives in the

When Death Comes at Christmas

God has placed this blog on my heart, nudging me awake at 4:30 am for many mornings until I began to listen and put these thoughts into words.  Throughout this time He has put articles,

Gifts that Come and Go

  Have you ever notice that as we age some of our gifts and talents fade, rust, and just plain disappear?  If you haven’t then you are not as old as I am. I used

Hope for the Hopeless

Recently a longtime acquaintance saw me and was so surprise that I had lost weight that she couldn’t seem to be happy for me.  Her surprise seemed to over shadow her ability to believe that

Thanking God for Everything

The actress, Pauley Perette plays Abbey Scuito, a forensic scientist on NCIS.  Recently she spoke about being through many seasons in her life – some good and some bad. There was a season when she

Faithful Friend or Political Foe?

With so much rancor, frustration, fear, and just plain nastiness this presidential election brought forth, I was determined not to post anything on Facebook or write a blog post that would worsen an already volatile

Are You Ever Cured?

There is a debate as to whether one can ever be cured of an addiction.  Some say once you have changed the behavior for a long period of time you are cured.  Others believe that

Used and Grateful

My husband Thad and I help organize our weekly Communion Ministry at our church.  We needed two people to help serve as those that regularly serve this particular Sunday were out of town.  My husband

Old Is Made New Again

We have just spent six days taking care of our almost 9 month old grandson, Ryker, while his parents and older brother were in NJ celebrating a wedding.  We were excited to have the opportunity

It’s My Cancer-versary…

I am sharing the story of this young woman’s journey and celebrating her cancer-versary with you.  Hope it inspires you as it did me.   There are lots of things in my life that are

The Unforeseen Blessing

She was unplanned.  We didn’t want a second dog.  We finally knew who chewed the woodwork, tinkled on the floor, and generally wreaked havoc while we were working to keep our pet in the lifestyle

What Hurricane Matthew Taught Me     

It’s been eleven years since the last hurricane came breathing down the coast of Florida and I was a little rusty.

The Human Historical Vehicle

I was sitting at a stop light next to a Volkswagen Westphalia and its tag reads: Historical Vehicle. What?  It’s not that old!  Is it?  Made in the early 1950’s until 2003, the Westphalia was

Seeing the Beauty and Not the Beast in Life

I was walking my usual exercise route when one of my neighbors who I had not seen in a while came out of her house.  She stopped abruptly and took a double take and said:


Had to share this with my readers because it exemplifies what God wants for us – to conquer evil with love. Enjoy this story written by Joseph J Mazzella.

If it’s Not One Thing, It’s Another

People say that things come in threes.  It’s usually connected to bad events that happen in our lives: deaths, broken appliances, home repairs, health issues.  I think I am in one of those times.

Wanton Worry

While prayers and time with God allayed my fears I must confess that my need to worry and anticipate was in high gear for the week prior to my right hip replacement surgery.  (see previous

Coat of Armor

I will be scrubbed with disinfectant.  I will be stripped of my clothing.  Devoid of makeup, jewelry, even my wedding rings that show I belong to someone – that I am loved will be removed. 

My Daughter’s Husband

I have known my son in law longer than I have known my daughter.

The Difference

Have you ever doubted that one person can make a difference in someone’s day?  If you have, read on. It had been a tough month: my sister in law died, I had an irregular EKG

Survivor or Victim?

When my medical history is shared, people are always amazed at how much of it there is.  They wonder how I managed to get through it and still have a good disposition.  My husband would

Are We Playing God?

My sister in law was called home this month.  Suffering from vascular dementia for many years; it was a long goodbye.  A talented musician, a gifted nurse, and a loving wife, mother and grandmother her


This is written by a blogger I follow. I think it needs no further introduction.  I hope you find it as true to your life as it is mine.   We’d been lying in the

In This World There Will Be Suffering…

Orlando, Florida, our nation and our allies are still stunned by the attack on innocent victims at the Pulse Club in Orlando, Fl. this past Sunday. Lives were lost, blood was shed, and countless tears, fears,

Promote Your Blog Here

I think this is a wonderful way to connect and create community. Please feel free to post a brief description about your blog. Many blessings for the day.

Avenging my Nemesis

I was visited by my archenemy this week. Breast cellulitis. Again. Despite receiving two bags of Vancomycin in the hospital in November after my left hip replacement. Despite taking a low dose antibiotic every day

Two Sides to Fear

  A friend of mine is battling stage IV metastatic breast cancer that has metastasized to her bones.  The disease was diagnosed almost ten years ago but she didn’t start to fight her disease until

Can I afford to live?

A recent conversation with my cousin got me to thinking about how long I could afford to live.  Recently my cousin returned to her oncologist after an experimental protocol she was on failed to keep

It’s Time to Play Ball

I almost lost my husband to testicular cancer.  Not once, but twice.  The first time was when he was 31 years old and our daughter was 11 months old.  Then second time she was 16. 

Lord, I Believe.  Help my Unbelief.

On a recent visit to NY for a family christening we experienced everything from summer weather to a winter storm.  The first two days were mild with sunny weather and a high of 70.  But

There’s No Exclusive on Aging

There is nothing like visiting family to make you feel old.  From the grand babies that seem heavier than our kids were, to toddlers and young children who have so much energy we tire just

Faith that Overcomes Fear

Our friend was having brain surgery.  Again. The Melanoma kept insidiously attacking our friend and the three of us were going to visit her and help pass the time until she was taken to surgery

A Moment in Time, Forever in Our Hearts.  

  2016 started off with many blessings for our family.  With the expectation of a baby, our daughter and her family sold their starter home and moved into a four bedroom home. Two days after

You Want Me to Do What?

Between bowels in an uproar or on strike, worn out hips, knees, and shoulders, and the aches and pains of undetermined origin, my husband and I need to stick together so that we can function

The Miracle of Life on Earth. 

When you have been plagued with a plethora of medical adversity, you may decide at some point that if you die, you die; you have seen what you have seen, done what you have done

Welcome here whoever thou art If friend,

Welcome here whoever thou art If friend, we meet the hand & heart. If stranger, no longer be. If foe, our love shall conquer thee. -unknown

The Waiting Game

I was on the phone with my nine month pregnant daughter who says to me “I have had enough.  Baby Ryker needs to vacate the premises, his lease is up and I hurt from him

Practice Safe Sex? Why Not S.A.F.E. Medical Care?

Have you heard about a friend, a family member, or a work mate whose medical care was so poorly administered that its consequences were life threatening or lethal?  I think we all have.

The Work of Christmas Begins

This Christmas has been a special one.  Not only were we celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ but we were celebrating the upcoming birth of our second grandchild.  And for the first time since our

Blessed Birth Transcends Time

On March 4, 1920 a father rejoiced in the birth of his son.  It was a birth that was not to have happened for his wife had a weakened heart. And yet, there was his

Dichotomy of the Season

Christmas is that time of year when we celebrate the birth of our savior.  It is a time of wonder, delight and sometimes strife.  It can feel like the devil’s using this time to strike. 

Life is a Balance of Holding on and Letting Go

  The good Lord has been providing me with opportunities to practice patience and balance in my life.  To be truthful, it’s an ongoing journey; having not reached the destination of being comfortable with setting

It is 2015 and I am grateful

If you have ever watched the Cinemax TV series The Knick then you will readily guess what I am thankful for this Thanksgiving season.  Set in New York City in 1900, the Knickerbocker Hospital operates

The Road Of Life

I read this on a blog post entitled Morning Story and Dilbert.  As a bicyclist and a Christian, I could so relate.  I hope you can as well. At first, I saw God as my

Did You Say Spinal Block?

I went for my pre-surgical visit this past week having gotten clearance from my cardiologist, infectious disease physician and internist that I can survive hip replacement without having a heart attack, cellulitis infection or a cold.

A Work in Progress

I have shared in previous blog posts that I am more of a “Martha” than a “Mary”.  I am more comfortable scrubbing toilets, setting up the dining room supply area, and unloading a truck at

I’m F.I.N.E.

I have been afraid of needles since I was a little girl with brown, Shirley Temple curls and training wheels on my bike.  Somethings never change.  While as an adult I understand the need for

The Big Questions

There is a rise and fall that occurs in our lives, a roller coaster ride of ups and downs, push and pulls, give and takes, waves crashing in and seas flowing back into the ocean. 

Claiming Disability

I was receiving medical care recently and the nurse was reviewing my medical history.  There is a lot of history, folks – a plethora of history – a history that makes one tired just reading

The Miracle of Faith

Recently, I have been blessed to be a medical advocate for a friend of mine.  She has been through a series of health hurricanes within the last ten years.  It began with a lesion on

A Parallel Universe

We recently went to Orlando to visit our grandson, Aiden, to celebrate his 7th birthday.  I was struck by the similarities in our lives. Aiden has just crossed the threshold from Kindergarten to First Grade. 

Who is at the Helm of This Ship?

I had been receiving antibiotic infusions for the last ten days and had not seen a doctor since that first late afternoon when I presented to their office with cellulitis of the breast.  I was

Are We Caring For The Patient Or The Health Care System?

I was visited by an old nemesis this week. One I knew well but had not battled with in five years.  Cellulitis of the breast due to a lumpectomy in 2003 came roaring into my

Assuming Bad

I was recently watching DIY networks Yard Crashers.  This is where a DIY personality searches home improvements stores for homeowners who could use a pro’s expertise to transform their backyards from drab to grand!   Who

Not Just for Breakfast…

Its morning and I wander into my favorite room– the living room.  It’s away from the beehive hum of the house and bombardment of world news on the TV.  It has a warm, study like

“But I Don’t Want To!”

It’s a good thing I am retired because I wouldn’t be able to hold a fulltime job with all the doctor’s appointments I have.  I accept and expect that as I age (not well, by

Doctor Shopping

While I enjoy shopping when I need to, it’s not something I want to do every day.  I don’t have the bank account for it nor do I need much to make me happy these

Re-purposing for a Beautiful and Purposeful Life

Recently Thad and I went looking for dining room furniture.  My brother and his wife have enjoyed many years of consignment and antique shopping and suggested that they take us to several of their favorite

Who’s Plan is It?

I plan.  God laughs.  I plan a lot so God spends a lot of time laughing at me.  I probably have my own theatre up in heaven eating popcorn, watching and laughing. You see, I’m

When God says “No”

Working on an Emmaus (Christian Retreat) Team is filled with leadership training, working with diverse populations, planning, executing and ultimately serving throughout the weekend.  It is also filled with the love of God and the

A French Perspective

Thad and I recently spent 10 days in France.  We learned about Chateau’s and wine, beautifully architecturally designed buildings, wine, cathedrals, wine, rich culture, wine, history and delicious foods.  Did I mention wine?  We visited

A Shopping Trip to Memory Lane

Who ever said shopping was fun was only half right.  While it is fun, it can be humiliating, tests your patience and ability to make decisions and is downright exhausting! I was in JJill desperately

The Message in the Pain in My Back

It was 7:30 am and Thad and I were already having “a discussion”.  Not a great way to start the day.  Maybe it was because we were rushing around getting dressed, feeding and walking the

Healing Made Visible

Breakfast at The Pancake House turned out to be a special gift and it wasn’t the pancakes.   A young, smiling waitress escorted us to a table near where three older men were seated.  Obviously retired,

Learning from an Unlikely Source  

Picture this.  A French village in the late 1950’s.  It is governed by a mayor who takes his job and religion very seriously.  The doctrine of “giving up” something for lent is required in mass,

2010 – A Heartfelt Easter

Five years ago on a Good Friday my chest was opened up and 2 blockages in my heart were bypassed with veins from my left leg. I was frightened but mildly relieved that rather than being

Turning Hope into Joy

I have noticed that as we age we lose things.  We lose our eyesight; we lose our hearing.  We lose our hair, and even the elasticity of our skin.  We lose muscle mass and bone

Turning Trouble into Hope

Have you ever been driving or sitting at a stop light and happen to look over at the car next to you only to find a person ranting and raving to absolutely no one else

Turning Worry into Trust

2015 hasn’t started out to be a good year with regards to my health.  I fell victim to the flu and cold right after the New Year’s celebration and spent almost a week trying to

Until We Meet Again

It was 23 years ago this past week that my mother died.  She had battled breast cancer for 10 years and spent much of that time beating it into submission, living a good life, but

A Caregiver’s Worth

If you are in a care-giving role, you may be feeling like you are a worn out floor mop used once too often and lost most of its ability to mop up the dirt and

Road Work

I don’t want people to look at me and say “Boy, she’s had a little work done (plastic surgery)”.  You all know what I mean.  I live in Boca Raton where having plastic surgery is

Standing Up for Faith

Last week I wrote about the persecution of faith.  I asked if God was being pushed out of our lives and if so, what are we doing about it. And it started me to thinking. 

The Persecution of Faith

We are living in a society that is so afraid of being politically incorrect that we are denying our rights rather than allowing our rights to be exercised.  I am talking about the persecution of

I Must Be Dead – My Health Insurance Says So

Since Thad retired two years ago, there has been a tradition.  On December 31st our health insurance coverage gets dropped.  We usually find out by going for a doctor’s appointment or picking up prescriptions from

Human Weakness by Design  

I said I would need prayers and I do.  I knew it would be hard and it is.  Oh, it’s not the end of the world hard, but rather human weakness that has got a

The Ultimate Resolution

Oh, boy, a new year has begun. New beginnings, new promises, new commitments, new resolutions – and I have made and done them all.  These are just a few: eat healthy, exercise daily, let go

The Christmas Crunch & Slump: When Anxiety was great within me.

Although Christmas is my most favorite time of the year there was one Christmas where I found myself in a very dark place. My business was a seasonal one and I was working a second

Cherish Memories Made & Given

Today my calendar was a scheduled dichotomy: a memorial service and a delivery of gifts to a family in need.

Life’s Bitter Fruit

 My husband, Thad grew up in the rural farm lands of Indiana where he and his older brother and sister spent wonderful times visiting their mother’s childhood farm.  On one such occasion, his brother and

The Lord Who Carries Me – Braces and All

When I was nine months old I was diagnosed with elongated tendons in my legs causing me to walk on the inside of my feet.  I was placed in leg braces which I wore 24/7

When the Healing Doesn’t Come

I would like to share a blog from Scribbles and Crumbs.  She is an amazing writer who shares her grief and loss of her baby with bare pain and strong faith.  She discusses the questions

Relating to Relationships

There is an image that will stay in my heart and soul forever to remind me that we are born for relationships. Our new pastor came to our couple’s bible study recently to meet us

An Unhallowed Christmas without Thanksgiving

This morning on my walk I saw Christmas lights adorning the trim on a house and a blow up Santa Claus already poised in a yard.  Really?  It’s not even Thanksgiving yet.  With Halloween being

The PB&J Sandwich

While walking the dogs I ran into a neighbor who had recently brought her mother to live with her.  I asked her how she was doing.  Between homeschooling her ten year old and caring for

Ignore or Explore?

Why was I more freaked out over having a biopsy of a blemish on my scalp than I was over my lumpectomy, or my coronary artery bypass? It had been a few years since I

A Chance Encounter

It was a chance encounter.  I had brought my friend to the outpatient surgical center for a procedure.  While in the waiting room a young man sat in the chair next to me.  He had

Setting Priorities

Patrick Morley has done it again,  He condenses all of life’s infinite decisions and distractions to a simple idea.  This is a good question for all of us to ponder and to set our priorities.

Gleaning a Mary Spirit Amidst a Martha Heart

Luke 10:38-42The Message (MSG) Mary and Martha As they continued their travel, Jesus entered a village. A woman by the name of Martha welcomed him and made him feel quite at home. She had a

When We Serve, We Become Served

So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you

Define Success

Most of you reading this know that I have written a book which I am trying to publish.  It’s been a nine year birthing process and like a mother-to-be in her final trimester; I am

The “Sling Season”

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.  Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NRSV) This past week Thad was given the go-ahead to stop wearing the “Transformer” Shoulder Sling!    After six weeks

Use It or Lose It

I often quip that Thad and I need to remain a team because it takes two of us to make one fully functioning brain.  We will enter a room and can’t remember why we went

“If You Can Laugh at It – You Can Deal With It” – Joan Rivers

Within the last month the world has lost two great comedians – Robbin Williams and Joan Rivers.  This means we are going to have to work twice as hard to keep laughter in our lives

A Humorous Look at Aging Published on May 30, 2014 Part Two Senior Conference On Aging. Held at the First Church of the Nazarene of Pasadena. Keynote Speaker Fritz Coleman NBC4’s weathercaster is a Southern California broadcasting icon.

Two Schools of Thought

There are two schools of thought when it comes to responding to friends and family going through a medical morass or the loss of a loved one.  The first is to wait for time to

Monday, Monday 

Oh, Monday morning, you gave me no warning of what was to be. Monday, Monday, can’t trust that day; Monday, Monday, it just turns out that way…  Monday, Monday by The Mammas & The Pappas.

Humor Therapy

It’s been two weeks since Thad’s shoulder surgery and I am beginning wear down.  How am I going to maintain stamina, not to mention, the right attitude?  Unless he has some miraculous healing there will

Staying Powered Up During Power Downs

If you are fortunate enough to have a smart phone, you find that you utilize all sorts of apps simultaneously: photo, banking, calendar, email, investment sites, grocery lists, books, fitness, flashlights, calculator, music, Facebook, texting

I’m Still Here, My Child (Part 2 of Are You Here, Lord?)

It wasn’t what we’d hoped for.  It wasn’t what we’d prayed for.  It wasn’t what we had thought could happen.  But here we are, hearing the doctor’s words: “I have never worked on a shoulder

Are You Here, Lord?

I have just said good-bye to my husband.  They have wheeled him away to have his shoulder rebuilt.  This is elective surgery.  He doesn’t have to have it done.  After all the surgeries and procedures

Two Friends – One Fear

I recently spent the day with two friends in two separate hospitals.  And yes, it was one of those days when you wish you could be in two places at once.

For Better or For Worse, In Sickness & in Health

Forty years ago, my husband and I chose each other for better or for worse.  Some days I think he got the worse.  I was once this vivacious, voluptuous, attractive woman in a Sophia Loren

Psalm 91:4 NIV

The Lord will cover you with His feathers and under His Wings you will find refuge.  His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart

Be Careful of What You Wish For

I’m fine. Really. I’m fine as in F.I.N.E. Freaked out, insecure, neurotic and exhausted.  It all started when I attended my first writer’s conference – Write-To-Publish.  It was eye opening, fun, overwhelming, productive, and informative-

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Loretta Schoen

Loretta Schoen

A book’s a dream that you hold in your hand. Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light.

When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a writer.  I shared this with an author friend of the family.  She said “Loretta, write what you know.”  But at 10 years old – What did I know?

Flash forward a couple dozen years and I found myself with a plethora of experiences relating to medical issues: my own, my family, and my friends.  With those experiences came the stories.  Survival stories, really.

Through these stories I realized God was leading me to do more and the birth of this blog and the book Surviving Medical Mayhem was bornI also love to share my stories in person and conduct Christian based workshops, seminars and talks to provide tools to survive and thrive through medical adversity.

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Would you like to contribute to this place of encouragement?  Maybe your story is just be the “miracle” that someone else needs to read?

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