Whatever You Do, Don’t Shoot Your Husband
Thad and I recently celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary. We spent a quiet day as he was recovering from a second shoulder surgery. While they say the 50th is celebrated by exchanging items of Gold, we celebrated with a new Styker titanium right shoulder!
I don’t know about you but you cannot live with someone for 50 years and not at times wonder what you saw in your spouse or perhaps be even mad enough to think, if not say “I could shoot you right now!”. Well, I want to tell you whatever you do – don’t shoot your husband. I got to shoot him every afternoon for 6 weeks and the only one that hurt was me!
Let me explain. The first shoulder operation revealed a massive infection that after 4 hours of cleaning out what infection the surgeon could see; needed 6 weeks of daily infusions of two high powered antibiotics. A pic line was installed which enabled me to inject the necessary life saving antibiotics along with the necessary saline and heparin injections as well. The visiting nurse came to show me how using sterile technique I could administer the necessary injections. The first time I did it you would have thought I was sitting outside in the Florida summer heat I was sweating so much. It was literally dripping off of me and I worried that while I was using sterile technique; my sweat dripping down onto his arm could kill him! The second day, I used a personal fan around my neck and thereafter it was literally a breeze! But over the course of the days it appeared to get more difficult for me to inject him. The saline and heparin were a breeze but the two antibiotics were thicker and therefore were harder to push the plunger. I was sure that his pic line might be getting blocked but the visiting nurse assured me it was going in without any obstruction. By the end I could barely administer the drugs my thumb hurt so bad. And the thumb itself was locking and clicking and just plain HURT!
Turns out if you shoot your husband with six syringes a day for 6 weeks you can develop a trigger thumb!
Those 6 weeks made me think about the many times in the past when I was frustrated with my husband and wanted to lash out. Have you noticed that when you point your hand as if you are holding a gun that the other 3 fingers are pointing towards you? Simply put, when you try to hurt someone – you too, will get hurt. Harboring anger and resentment over time without forgiveness causes pain and poisons the soul to all concerned. After 50 years of marriage, I want to cherish the days we have left in peace and harmony. How about you?
So ladies, it bears repeating – while you may wish to shoot your husband – don’t. Because the only one it hurts is yourself.
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31-32
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Blessings for Health & Wellness.